As most of you who follow this blog know, I really appreciate the work of George Couros. He never ceases to get me thinking about education in new ways and his transparency about his own education challenges is refreshing.
In his recent post Keep Your Head Up and Keep Creating, he addressed the challenge of dealing with negative feedback and how one negative comment can obsess one’s thoughts despite many positive responses to our work. I know that this is certainly true for me. I am a people pleaser and when that does not happen it grates at me. In fact, sometimes I really have to push myself to elicit feedback knowing that some of the feedback while not be positive.
George provides some good suggestions for working through this challenge — celebrating the growth you have made through positive feedback, seeking out honest feedback from those you trust most, etc. But the reality is that negative feedback usually affects any of in ways that do not lend themselves to a simple solution.
May I propose that negative feedback (justified or unjustified) is a gift that calls us to renewed fellowship with our God? Our worth is ultimately not found in the opinions of others but in the value our Creator places on us. That value that God sees in each of us is not made up of only of words but of actions. Christ suffered and died for each of us — a horrific experience from a human perspective — just so that we could have a relationship with Him, not just now on this earth, but eternally. How can any one comment defeat us when we remember the Lord of all who defeated sin and death on our behalf!
So when the negative feedback comes your way……
…….. thank the Lord for drawing You to Him to consider anew His unfailing love for You.
…….. pray that your eyes may be opened to the kernels of truth for you to address.
…….. praise God for placing you in a position to impact others, and seek His wisdom for the power to do this in even more meaningful ways with the help of the Holy Spirit.
What are your suggestions for dealing with negative feedback? Share them as a comment to this post. Let’s learn from each other!